Learning to be happy with your body

There is so much pressure these days to look a certain way, and it is the kind of thing that can really make people’s lives much less satisfying on the whole. If you find yourself sometimes bowing to this societal need to look right, you are not alone, nor should you feel ashamed to have done so. The truth is that such social forces are powerful, and we are all liable to be victims to their darker sides some of the time. But if you want to live a life that works for you, and be true to yourself, at some point you are going to need to learn how to be happy with your body as it is, without needing to change it to fit into some ridiculous popular mould.

In this post, we are going to look at the process of learning to be happy with your own body. What is involved, and how can you speed it up? Let’s see.

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Working From The Inside Out

Arguably the best way to love your body, without a doubt, is to first make sure that you love yourself internally. As long as you are happy with who you are as a person, you will find that an appreciation of your body comes along with that quite naturally. But this is not an easy task in itself, and most of us spend most of our lives trying to get to terms with who we are in a way which we are going to be truly happy with. If you are still far from having this mission completed, you are not alone, so don’t worry. But there are some things you can probably do if you hope to learn to love yourself a little more for who you are.

First of all, remember that there is no such thing as the perfect human being. Likewise, there is no perfect woman, man, lover or friend. Once you truly accept that you will never be perfect, you can to a large degree let go of that need, which is at once understandable and childish. Once you know that you don’t need to strive for perfection, it becomes clear that all you need to do instead is to learn how to be truly yourself in any situation. That largely comes from developing a presence, a willingness and bravery to face the present moment as it is, whatever it brings, without hoping to veer away from it or cover it up with something else. There are plenty of things that we tend to use to do this: you might escape into the world offered by your smartphone, or you might have developed some kind of a habit of avoidance which is so ingrained that it takes a long time to uncover it and uproot it. In any case, if you can aim to be more present in the moment at all times, you will slowly start to learn what it means to be yourself, rather than run from yourself when things get hard.

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Photo by Sabel Blanco from Pexels

Over time, that turns into a genuine self-love which you can then foster in yourself for good. It is that self-love which you require in order to be truly happy with your external appearance. As long as you are not happy with who you are, you will never be quite happy with how you appear. For a lot of people, learning to love themselves requires a great deal of patience, and so small measure of forgiveness. We each have things we need to forgive ourselves for, some more than others, and the sooner we can do that, the sooner we will discover an entire kind of self-worth we might not have known even existed within ourselves. That is the kind of place we want to be, if we are to be happy with ourselves internally, and so be happy with ourselves externally too.

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Photo by Tembela Bohle from Pexels

Finding Your Good Attributes

That being said, finding things to be happy about with your body is a pretty useful thing to do, too, and it is something that any of us can do in whatever way we want. The truth is that there are plenty of qualities about your appearance which you should be able to point to and say that you like, and being aware of what those are will be a powerful aid in helping you to be much happier with your appearance on the whole. Finding your good attributes is a hugely valuable part of ensuring that you really know why you should be happy with your body, and yet few people really take the time to do exactly this.

You might have a general sense of some of the things you like about your body, but until you make them clear in your mind and write them down somewhere, that information won’t have quite the same effect. It is only when you have it really clear that you can hope to actually make the most of those better attributes, in a way which is going to really make a difference to how you feel about yourself. If you have noticed, for instance, that you really like how your tummy looks, you might wish to make the most of it by decorating it with belly bars. If you really like your hair, you might be keen to grow it out and make it look its absolute best. Whatever it is that you like about your body, you can use that information to maximize how you feel about your body overall.

If you are struggling with this, as most of us do from time to time, then you might even want to speak to a trusted friend about it. They might be able to know much more than you do, even, about what your best qualities are physically. As long as you trust their opinion, then you can reliably use that information to be able to know what to do in order to make the most of that. However you do it, finding your good attributes is essential to being truly happy with your body.

This is a contributed post.

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